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Tech Proof Kids
Technology is not the problem.
We live in a world where all forms of instant gratification are available at our fingertips. These constant temptations make it hard for our children to develop healthy habits. Our biology is built for a social environment that provides appropriate struggle, challenge, frustration and feedback. Without these appropriate hardships children fail to grow healthy boundaries, emotional intelligence and maturity.
We have a choice.
We can see our children as the miraculous being they are and stand up to the instant gratification culture and teach them how to be “Tech Proof”. This is your opportunity to help them be addiction proof. Their screen use is merely a symptom of society, our parenting, our modeling, and ultimately their own developmental trauma and self esteem.
Lets give our children what they truly need today…
so they don’t become the “users” of tomorrow.
Life Affirming Habits
Patterns of behavior that determine how we live our lives
Questionable Habits
Patterns of behavior that determine how we live our lives
Addictive Habits
Compulsive distructive habitual patterns
Self Esteem / Self Worth
An individual’s overall subjective sense of personal worth or value. It involves beliefs and feelings about oneself, including one’s capabilities, accomplishments, and attributes. Self-esteem can be influenced by a range of factors, including experiences, relationships, and social comparison. Individuals with high self-esteem tend to have a positive self-image, feel confident in their abilities, and are able to cope with challenges and setbacks more effectively. Conversely, individuals with low self-esteem may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and negative self-talk. Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem is an important aspect of personal growth and can have positive effects on mental and emotional well-being.
Self Awareness
The ability to recognize and understand one’s own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as their impact on others. It involves being aware of one’s strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs, and how they shape one’s actions and decisions. It is an important aspect of personal growth and development, as it allows individuals to better understand themselves and their relationships with others.
Self Compassion
The practice of being kind, understanding, and supportive toward oneself, especially during difficult or challenging times. It involves treating oneself with the same warmth, care, and concern that one would offer to a close friend. Self-compassion involves acknowledging one’s own suffering, while also recognizing that it is a shared human experience, and that one is not alone in their struggles. It is a powerful tool for promoting resilience, reducing stress and anxiety, and improving overall well-being.
Self Acceptance
The act of fully embracing and acknowledging oneself, including one’s strengths, weaknesses, and imperfections. It involves recognizing and embracing all aspects of oneself, both positive and negative, without judgment or criticism. Self-acceptance is not about striving for perfection or seeking to change oneself to fit an ideal, but rather it is about accepting oneself as one is, with compassion and understanding. It is a key component of self-esteem and can help promote a sense of inner peace and happiness.
Self Love
The practice of treating oneself with kindness, compassion, and respect. It involves caring for one’s own physical, emotional, and mental well-being, and making choices that honor and support one’s needs and values. Self-love also involves accepting oneself unconditionally, including one’s flaws and imperfections. It is not about being selfish or egotistical, but rather it is about recognizing one’s own worth and deservingness of love and care. Self-love is a vital component of personal growth and can help improve overall well-being and relationships with others.
Practices:
Breath
Gratitude
Boundaries
Mindfulness
Reparenting
Environment
Nutrition
Nervious System Regulation
Self Talk
Exercise
Kindness
Relationships
Waking up - Rememberences
- Aspiration for presence
- Pausing –
- Don’t have to believe our thoughts – Self Coaching –
- Turning towards love – Nurturance – “Trust your heart”, “Trust your sincerity”, Kindness.
Jack Kornfield : A Lamp in the Darkness
Grief and loss and suffering, even depression and spiritual crisis, the dark nights of the soul only worsen when we try to ignore or deny or avoid them. The healing journey begins when we turn toward them and learn how to work with them. When we stop fighting against our difficulties and find the strength to meet our demons and difficulties head-on, we often find that we emerge from our difficulties stronger and humbler and more grounded than we were before we experienced them. To survive our difficulties is to become initiated into the fraternity of wisdom.
The real tragedy is when we refuse to acknowledge and respect our own suffering, and instead spread it unconsciously to others. As the Nobel laureate Elie Wiesel has written, “Suffering confers neither privileges nor rights. It all depends on how one uses it. If you use it to increase the anguish of others or yourself, you are degrading, even betraying it. And yet the day will come when we shall understand that suffering can elevate human beings. God help us to bear our suffering well.”
Brave: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Beating Worry by Kari Kampakis
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Emotional Intelligence in Children : Book Review
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Emotional Immaturity: The Connection to Screen Addiction
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Codependency : The Experts Talk
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Self Love : “Just Love Yourself” – yeah right!
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Indistractable : Great Practices for Getting Unhooked.
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Hooked : Your children are the catch of the day!
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Screen Use Statistics : The Real Pandemic?
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What is Addiction Anyways? Differing Perspectives.
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Screen Addiction Questionnaire
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Codependent Parenting : Free yourself to free your child
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Codependency : Identify the Symptoms.
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Recovering from Codependency.
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